I recently saw a bio of Danny Bonaduce in which he made the following statement about becoming a father:
“I can’t be irresponsible with my life while at the sam
e time being responsible for hers.”.
I don’t keep up with the Hollywood scene and I have no idea if he has lived up to this statement. But I struck me none the less. I totally get it. In my life I have made some really poor decisions. Often knowing that they probably weren’t the best ones. But I made them anyway on a whim, and without much thought. If I messed up, the only one who paid the price was me.
Since becoming a husband and a father, that has all changed. I have two lives that are totally dependent on the decisions that my wife and I make. That’s a lot of pressure and responsibility to make good decisions. I still don’t always get it right. But every decision is made with a lot of thought; “Is this the best decision for our family?”. I’m even much more willing to listen to wise council from others. Outside perspective from a trusted friend or family member has saved my butt a few times.
I often find myself rooting for the underdog. I hope that Mr. Bonaduce finally has got his act together, for his daughter’s sake.
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territerri // November 25, 2008 at 4:32 am |
I think some people have so little faith in themselves and so little self esteem that they behave recklessly… until they become a parent. I think that’s especially true for celebrities. They seem to have so little incentive to “grow up.” The world feeds on their flaws. They get paid to keep their faces in the spotlight, even if it’s because they are behaving badly. Danny Bonaduce has become famous for his bad behavior, but I too really hope that fatherhood is will have a profound and positive impact on him.
morethananelectrician // November 25, 2008 at 9:07 am |
Heard Mr. Bonaduce on Stern about a month ago. He isn’t “right” still. He is better, but maybe he is working at it…
I root for him too. Everyone gets in tough situations, whether they put themselves there or a set of circumstances dictated their position, and, it is how each of us pulls ourselves out of those holes for our families that shows what we are capable of becoming.